As PsychologyToday pointed out, you shouldn’t have to feel as though sex is the only way to be connected with someone or a quid pro quo situation. That’s not healthy.
Reliability is one of the keys to trustworthiness, a major building block of a successful relationship , according to Forbes . A reliable partner won’t ignore your texts, go without talking to you for days or leave you wondering if they’ll show up, let alone have your back.
If your partner can’t be trusted to send a text or check in every now and then, they might have one foot out the door. They don’t need to be constantly alerting you, but if you need them or you can’t locate them for long periods, that just might mean that you can’t trust them with your feelings.
They won’t commit or even discuss the future.
As the old saying goes, labels are for soup cans. That’s true, but if you started a relationship with the goal of becoming a couple, including the dreaded labels like „boyfriend“ or „girlfriend“ or „wife“ or „husband,“ and communicated that much from the start, then your significant other should be ready to at least discuss why or why not they want to be labeled as such.
If they can’t sit through a conversation about their intentions and goals, it might mean that they’re not willing to commit to you or they don’t envision the same kind of future that you do. This is totally fine, but you shouldn’t be planning a future around someone who doesn’t want a similar one, especially because, according to science , the clock is ticking.
They no longer include you in their future plans.
Maybe they’re willing to discuss the future, but when they do, you’re not included. This could mean that you’re dreaming of a wedding day with them as your other half … and they’re just dreaming of a wedding. The end.
If you’re hoping to build something long-term, it’s important that you plan a little bit together or be willing to cooperate and remain flexible. If your partner discusses their own future and doesn’t imagine you as part of it then they’re probably not planning on building a future with you. This could mean marriage, kids, or even just your bucket list.
„Sharing bucket lists, and making them together, is a great way to get to know each other,“ Masini told INSIDER . „When your bucket lists are compatible, and you can see yourself supporting your partner’s bucket list wishes, and you see them supporting yours, you’re in a relationship that can go the distance. But, if you and your partner think each others‘ bucket list wishes are crazy and don’t have a place in the relationship – then this isn’t ‚the one.'“
They just don’t respect you.
No matter who you are, you deserve to be with someone who thinks the very best of you and who treats you as such.
According to Psychology Today , respect may be even more crucial in relationships than love. This means that your partner doesn’t have to necessarily be in love with you at the moment, but they should at least, have respect for you.
If they make you feel taken for granted, belittle you, or question your work ethic, that’s disrespectful and that’s not who you want to spend your time with. In the end, if they’re not into you enough to give you the decency of respect, they shouldn’t occupy your time.
If the only thing your significant other wants to do is have sex then you have a problem. Though sexual chemistry and attraction are necessary for a lot of relationships, if your partner can’t get anything accomplished beyond the bedroom, that’s an issue.